Dear River

Today you are 3 and boy those 3 years have gone quick. It feels like only yesterday I posted “So, I just had a baby” on Facebook. You are head strong and funny. You are confident and have beautiful manners. You’re gorgeous but rough as hell.

I wonder what you’ll be like as you get older. It worries me because the world isn’t always the nicest place to be. So, let me give you a little bit of advice.

It costs nothing to be nice and its nice to be nice. Help people when you can, not because you want credit but because giving back feels good. One day you’ll need help so give the kind of help you hope to receive.

While it’s nice to be nice don’t be a doormat. Know your worth as a strong independent powerful woman. Don’t let anyone dull your shine because it scares them. Stand up for yourself and lift others up as well. Don’t accept other peoples shitty behavior. Demand the best.

Forgive but don’t forget. Now I know this sounds contradictory but trust me on this one. Forgiving people and letting go is a gift yourself. It’ll be a weight off your mind. However don’t forget what they did to hurt you. It also doesn’t mean you have let that person into your life.

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something because you’re female. Your WaWa and Dad will tell you the same thing. It’s bullshit. Kick in that door and introduce yourself.

Look after your brother because he’s going to need you. Family is important so love each other. When your grown with your own life if the day comes and we’re not around you’ll have each other for support. Be patient with him. He’s a MAC running in a Windows world.

Educate yourself. Not just academically but learn how things work. Learn how to do various things like change a tire, fix your computer (I do most of my own tech support), how to McGyver things. Learn to cook. Learn how things are in other countries. Learn about other people. Read all the books.

I don’t care who you love. Man, woman, 3 toed sloth. Just make sure that you love them, they love you, and they treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

Most of all. Love yourself as much as we love you because you’re amazing. Do the things you love and that make you happy. Sure, take a job because it’s money and you need money to live. We’ve all done that. Just make sure you things you love in life outside work that make your life rich and full. Fill your life with people that do the same.

I love you princess. We all do.

Happy birthday.

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