Fucking Christmas

Every year I seem to write something about burn out and Christmas fuckery this time of year. Always. This year we are feeling it here because Ads and I are both in hospitality. To say it’s been crazy is an understatement and Ads has 1 day left to go (tonight) until he’s off for 3 weeks. Then we’ve had family members on both Adam and my side that are very ill in hospital. The car shit itself not once but twice. Then there is the sheer insanity that comes with Christmas – the people being in one place at the same time, managing peoples expectations, kids, presents. It’s all a bedlam,

So how do we deal with it?

To be honest the thing I think is to head it off before it starts. The first step is to say no, and say it frequently. If something doesn’t work for you say no. Cant do the extra shift because you’re exhausted say no. You’re too fried for work drinks? Say no. Dont want that 25,000th lolly shoved in your face? Say no. If you can’t say no try and work out a solution that’s close to what you need. Sure you have to go shopping for Christmas presents but you can go early to big shopping centers and get out by the time the masses have come in. Don’t try and do 45 Christmases in 2 days. Spread them out where you can and leave lots of time for driving so you’re safe and not tired. Allow for time to yourself or some self care. Coming into contact with so many people in such a short period of time is so exhausting. Allow yourself to recharge with whatever it is that fills your cup even if it’s turning off your phone and unplugging for the night. Also, eat fairly good food. I get eating well is hard this time of year but aim for 80% decent food and you might just find yourself feeling ok. Stay hydrated too because it’s a hashtag and also true.

Then there’s the hard bit dealing with peoples, for want of a better term, emotional bullshit. Sure you can eat well, find time for 5 minutes self care and say no but how do you deal with other people putting their rubbish on you. Well there’s always the option of just not being in contact with those who truly make you feel like utter shit. Less emotional stress and less burn out. If that’s not an option set yourself some boundaries. For example say you’re on your 63rd phone call in 3 days from someone about the same Christmas plans. Say “we’ve already spoken about this. You’re being picked up at 10:30am with all the presents and the prawn salad. I’ve already checked and there is room in the fridge. I’m not going to discuss it again”. Then when the same topic comes up “sorry we’ve spoken about this. I’m not talking about it again”. I know it’s hard because I’ve been doing it myself for a few weeks but sometimes it’s just where you have to be. We’ve also called some people out on their shit too. Just said “um no, that’s not it chief, not doing this” when people want to start up with garbage, Again, I know it’s hard because we’ve been doing it for weeks ourselves. As for peoples build up and need for shit to be perfect, well, sometimes you gotta meet life where it is. Yes, there is something to be said for last minute pulling shit out of your ass. Then there is just accepting that your Christmas might not be movie/Martha Stewart/Donna Hay perfect but you’ve got food and are doing the thing.

…and that’s how I plan to survive Christmas after we get rid of these damn colds….

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